Lou Roantree

Why I'm running a mile a day in May

Monday 14th Apr

This May, I’m running a mile a day to raise funds for Mental Health UK—a cause that means a great deal to me and my family.

We hear the phrase, “It’s okay not to be okay,” all the time these days—but when you’re stuck in the middle of a mental health crisis, what does that really mean? And how much comfort does it actually bring?

How often do we actually stop and think about the people around us—our friends, family, work colleagues—and wonder who might NOT be okay? The truth is, so many people are fighting silent battles. They put on a brave face, try not to make a fuss, and carry the weight of it all behind closed doors—because they don’t want to burden anyone.

Over the last few years, my little family unit has faced some very tough times when it comes to mental health. Most people wouldn’t have known—not because we didn’t trust them, but because sometimes it just feels easier to smile and say, “I’m fine.” No one wants to be the fun sponge, the mood hoover, the party pooper. So instead, we stay silent and carry on.

That’s why it’s incredibly important to be a mental mate—ask if someone is okay, get past the “I’m fine” response, and then ask them if they’re REALLY okay. You might get a very different answer.

We’ve been fortunate to have incredibly supportive friends and family, and over time we’ve made some big life changes and sacrifices to allow us to build a better life. It’s still a work in progress—but we’re definitely heading in the right direction and in a positive place. But the truth is, there’s still far too much stigma around mental health. Not enough open conversation. Not enough safe spaces to say, “Actually, I’m struggling.”

So, this small act—running a mile a day—is my way of doing something for those who are suffering in silence. For those who feel like a burden. For those who think they just need to “get on with it” because others might have it worse. And most of all, for those who feel like the only option they have left is to choose a permanent solution to a temporary problem. All problems can be solved. Someone will help. You just have to let them.

Unfortunately, NHS mental health services are at breaking point, so it’s often down to charities to support people when they’re at their lowest ebb. If any of what I’ve written resonates with you, I’d be so grateful for your support—whether that’s a donation, a share, or simply being someone’s mental mate today.

Let’s not just say “it’s okay not to be okay.” Let’s mean it—and prove it—by asking, “Are you REALLY okay?” Let’s be more willing to talk about mental health, and do our bit to help remove the stigma.

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